It seems to be the most common theme in my life at this moment- boundaries. I used to not really have any. Completely unguarded to everyone and everything, and let me tell you, after a while it becomes pretty exhausting. I don't mind giving freely and without expectation, but I also have to consider that just like any account be it a bank account or a human life account- we all have to replenish the source or we go bankrupt.
Think about the reason why we have lacked boundaries in the past. I bet it had a considerably amount of eagerness to please others or woo someone over involved with your "no job to big" mentality. After a while and standing on this verse in the bible, I have realized that the people who truly love you will love you know matter what. Who you are in your purest form (and not over exhausting yourself jumping through someone else's hoops) should be enough for them to be impressed. After that it is all sprinkles and whip cream.
I challenge you to create a boundary for yourself. It can be setting aside time, or just learning how to say no certain things. It is great discipline and can really make you feel more in control of your life and emotions.
Showing posts with label Confidence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Confidence. Show all posts
03 July, 2012
23 June, 2012
Unedited character
Allow me to introduce you to Olive Isabella. She is my neice and I love her to bits. I decided to post her on a few of my blogs because there is just something so luminous about children...especially when they are pretending to be grown up. In reality, I think we are all just pretending to be grown up. Keeping up with the everyday grind, worrying about what everyone else thinks. What would be like though, if we let the inner child come out of us more than once in a while (sometimes almost never for some). What is it about children?
They are confident and courageous until we tell them No.
I mean think about it, my cousin had the opportunity to dress himself for school when he was four. His outfit of choice: sweatpants, a superman shirt (complete with mini cape), cowboy boots and a clip on tie. When he came out of his room dressed, we asked why he chose the tie (I think we mildly understood the other parts of the ensemble because it was "hero" motif and little boys love that stuff). He said, the tie "made him feel important".
Children keep the balance in the adult world. They trust. They get excited over cardboard boxes and other simple things- they aren't settling because they are genuinely happy with what they have. Their imaginations are immense because boundaries do not exist-yet. So when someone tells me I act like a child, great! I love that. That means I still have the rose colored lenses to see the world through. I trust there is enough people with pessimism, doubtful of opportunity to make up for my mostly whimsical attitude of life. While I appreciate hard work and responsibility that most adults strive towards, I appreciate children and their natural charisma. They are unedited characters.
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